Enough with the sandpaper of suffering!
I’ve been going through a rough patch lately. My physical and emotional health hasn’t been the best and most days it’s felt like I’m having to push through. I think that’s true for a lot of us — I’ve heard from friends near and far about how burned out we all are and...
Feeling Like Crap While The World is on Fire Around You? These 4 Things Can Help
It’s been a chaotic last couple of years, hasn’t it? Global pandemics, the rise of fascism, and disconnection from so many of the people and things that keep us sane and grounded. So many familiar things are falling apart, and I know that I’ve had to figure out new...
Using Your Spiritual Practice as a Way to Heal Trauma
Feeling disconnected and unmoored is one of the most insidious aftereffects of trauma. Whether it’s 2+ years of pandemic isolation or the result of a childhood in an emotionally detached family, feeling disconnected and alone is such a common experience. I know that...
Romancing Yourself Using Love Languages
How do I love me? Let me count the ways. Ask anyone who’s been in a long term relationship what the secret to success is and they’ll likely mention two things: You have to work at it every day and you have to make your partner feel special on the regular. That’s sound...
What if You Don’t Know How to Care for Yourself?
One of the most insidious aspects of growing up with emotionally unavailable parents is that I didn’t have models of how to be cared for. I didn’t grow up with examples of what it’s like to be comforted when I felt vulnerable, sad, afraid, or ashamed. I also didn’t...
Why Mindfulness is The Bedrock of Mind-Body Healing
Mindfulness is one of the bedrocks of mind-body healing. Without it, you can’t accomplish any significant healing on a physical, emotional or spiritual level. I want to look at what I mean by mindfulness and then give you some examples of how it integrates with other...
What is Thought Work?
“When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change” ~Wayne Dyer Recently, I wrote about neuroplasticity and how to use polysensory mental practice as a way to change the structure and function of your nervous system. Today I want to talk about...
How to rewire your brain using the power of your mind
I’m in the middle of doing research for my next book and I want to share some cool info about your nervous system and how you can change it for the better. Many years ago when I read the book “The Holographic Universe” I remember being struck by a study by Alan...
You need these 3 voices in your head
When we let the ego drive the bus without having other ways of looking at the world, it can drive us a bit mad. One of the most effective tools I know to become a happier person and make sure we’re not only listening to the ego is to cultivate three distinct voices in…
This email almost sent me in a tailspin
The term “shadow work” has been everywhere lately. But what is it really? I think of shadow work in terms of healing and clearing the way for better spiritual, emotional and intuitive connections. Shadow work uses strategies or tools to look at the parts of ourselves...
You are only dust, but yet you are also the creator of worlds
One of the most challenging things on my path of spiritual awakening is figuring out how to reconcile my awareness of who I really am, an eternal source of energy from a place of pure acceptance and love, with the reality of my human-ness and its associated capacity...
Challenge Stress
I’m about to tell you something that’s gonna upend everything you know about stress. Recent research has found that stress can actually be good for you. And not just on an emotional level, stress can actually heal you physically, too. The problem is we’ve been doing...
Why mindfulness meditation doesn’t always work
If you’ve tried mindfulness meditation and haven’t been able to stick with it, I think I may know why. Mindfulness meditation involves focusing our attention on one stimulus (like our breath or a mantra) and being mindful of any thoughts or other sensations that may...
Growth mindset + mindfulness = happy brain
Ready to hear one of my secrets to happiness? This particular trick is one that combines scientific research with a spiritual practice, one of my favorite things to do. This strategy is based on the work of Carol Dweck who researches “growth mindset” and how it can...
My NDE (Near Death Experience)
Just before I was offered the chance to die, I really had to pee. I was 5 months into my chemo treatment and I was a wreck, both physically and emotionally. At this point, I was unable to get myself out of bed, I was nauseated all the time, and I couldn’t keep food...
What is a sensory profile? And how is it connected to trauma?
I used to work as an occupational therapist for children with autism, ADHD, and other types of neurodivergence. One of the most effective treatment tools we had was the sensory profile because it allowed us to look at how school and home environments conflicted with...
What’s the most spiritual emotion? It’s not what you think!
When I first started the study of energy healing, I took a course on the Chinese 5-element theory. The 5 elements represent a cyclic, spiral growth cycle that you can see everywhere around you, from the cells in your body to the creation of new galaxies. Each of the...
How to Make Better Use of Your Time
One of my favorite novels is Kazuo Ishiguro’s Never Let me Go. It’s a sci-fi thriller about the moral implications of human cloning and a few years after it was published, they made a film adaptation. I went to see a screening and afterwards, there was a Q&A with...
What I do when worry takes over
I’ve spent a lot of time worrying the past few days. My worrying always tends to be about the same, familiar topics and it feels involuntary — I’ll be fine one minute and then suddenly I’ll start with a familiar spiral of worrying thoughts. Like a well-worn path in...
Mother Teresa was an A$$hole
Recently, I’ve noticed a theme coming up in my conversations with friends and clients — we’re all sick of being nice. By being nice, I mean doing the emotional labor to make sure our message is coming through in a pleasant way, while also scanning our conversation...